I like that the National Anthem takes place before games because it reminds me I'm a lucky guy to be placed in a situation where my full attention can be on a game for a few hours. I like a little patriotism because we've got a good thing going and I like feeling part of the larger community that makes it happen. At the same time though, I think anytime a group or a person starts to force patriotism it's not patriotism anymore it's a negative thing that I don't want to name because I don't want to be inflammatory. It's sort of like an otherwise great guy trying to *make* a woman love him (or switch the genders if you like) whatever comes from that is not love and is just a creepy thing that takes away from the whole love idea to begin with. As far as confronting people about their (lack of) patriotism: I also think the whole forcing people to give respect is about the easiest way to lose respect there is, and ostracizing someone simply because you served them before kinda invalidates the idea of service altogether. That said, I have nothing but respect for current and former members of our armed forces. Previous to my current career, I spent about 6 years as an apartment manager, a job which really let's you get to know who people are, how they live, how they conduct business, and how they treat their neighbors. I always worked a bit harder when trying to win application approvals for former military personnel because they were such good residents: time and again I noted how helpful, punctual, honest, organized, and concerned about their communities such people were. If my experience is any guide, I think the best way for former members of the armed forces to get respect from the people around them is to just be who they are. It might not work on everyone but I don't think forcing the issue helps either.