Your Help - Am I Being Nosey or Not?

[davidsb]

My family says I am nosey and have to know everything that is going on. I say I just like to be informed. The major reason they say that is most of the time when there is a phone call, I typically ask who it was and what they wanted. Do I need to change? Your thoughts appreciated.

[black_sandals]

Yes. I get annoyed when people ask me that after I get off the phone too. But I do it to other people. Trying to work on not being so nosy unless I have a good reason.

[Chaz]

Your nosey because if the phone call was for you, they would of handed the phone to you. In the military, we have a saying, you don't have a need to know..

[hueytaxi]

Just to tie it up!

[sagnam]

You are being too nosy. Everyone needs some privacy, even if it's a trivial thing like a phone call.

[pfife]

put it this way, I do that just to mess with people.

[Euphdude]

Depends on context I guess.

[DaYooperASBDT]

You mean well, but I voted "Yes".

[pfife]

wait... I think there's more information needed.

If you're asking your wife that, then yes, nosy. If you're asking your kids that, then no, not nosy.

[DaYooperASBDT]

wait... I think there's more information needed.

If you're asking your wife that, then yes, nosy. If you're asking your kids that, then no, not nosy.Excellent point, but couldn't you over-do that with the kids too?

[pfife]

Excellent point, but couldn't you over-do that with the kids too?

yeah probably

[tys-spikes84]

Definitely nosey, and quite annoying when people do that to me.

Edit: I should say super annoying. Why do you even need to be listening to them in the first place, let alone asking them about it?

[davidsb]

Why do you even need to be listening to them in the first place, let alone asking them about it?Truthfully, I rarely hear a word they are saying, I can zone out pretty well.

I do it with the wife and kids. I think it started years ago when it was just me and my older kids but continued when my wife moved in a few years ago.

Thanks for all the input, I am going to try really hard to work on improving this.

[DaYooperASBDT]

Just remember Red Green and the "Man's Prayer" :wink:

[tys-spikes84]

Truthfully, I rarely hear a word they are saying, I can zone out pretty well.

I do it with the wife and kids. I think it started years ago when it was just me and my older kids but continued when my wife moved in a few years ago.

Thanks for all the input, I am going to try really hard to work on improving this.

As said before kids are a whole different story, when I have kids I'll be listening to what they're talking about on the phone as well (when they aren't busy digging ditches for me). I speak from the other "end of the phone" because I live with someone who does that to me every time I get off the phone. Not a huge deal, but can be bothersome as well.

[Chopper]

My wife volunteers up the information before I even ask. You have to know how to train them .

[chasfh]

You are being too nosy. Everyone needs some privacy, even if it's a trivial thing like a phone call.

Especially a thing as trivial as a phone call.

[RedRamage]

Yes, I think you are being too nosey, but not on purpose. You're just curious, and depending on the situation, it's no biggie. For instance, if my wife is on the phone and she's asking me questions, I like to know who I'm answer for, especially if the question is technical (I'm sort of the resident computer geek in the family, and some family members I trust to do some things, others would have no clue, that changes how I answer the question).

But in other cases, it isn't important and rude to be asking who it was and what they wanted. If my wife is holding what sounds like a semi-private conversation, I won't ask her about it at all.

However, my wife ALWAYS questions me when I'm on the phone. She doesn't wait until I'm off, she wants to know right away and gets angry when I don't tell her. That frustrates me.

I also had a co-worker who was stationed right next to me. She always asked me too and I thought that was very nosey. Again, I don't think she was doing it to intentionally pry, she was just curious. But it was still nosey and unnecessary.

[Oblong]

yes.

A family member, not my wife, does the same thing. House full of people, at my house, and the phone will ring. I'll answer it and take care of it. I'll get "Who was that?"

Annoys the heck out of me. It's my house. Don't worry about who it was. If I wanted you to know I'd tell you.

[shabba4detroit]

My family says I am nosey and have to know everything that is going on. I say I just like to be informed. The major reason they say that is most of the time when there is a phone call, I typically ask who it was and what they wanted. Do I need to change? Your thoughts appreciated.


Is it your phone? Then it's your business. If not, then you're being nosy.

[Ingefanclub]

No not nosy...it bugs me when the phone rings and my wife talks and does not tell me who it was or what it was about.

I need to know if its my mother in law trying to come over to ruin our weekend.

[thewave84]

I think you have the right to ask and people have the right to say "none of your business" or "oh, nothing". If you continue to ask then you are being nosy. Sometimes it is good to be nosy about what your kids are doing.

[thefunk]

man, I had a friend who every single time I hung up the phone, he'd ask, "who was that?" and it wasn't a nice tone, it was like he was scolding me.

or when I'd get back from someplace, in the same tone he'd say, "where were you?" as if he was being shafted that I didn't tell him.

there's a difference between when it's a friendly question, and when the people think they have a right to know.

[chasfh]

Is it your phone? Then it's your business. If not, then you're being nosy.

You're saying the conduit is the sole determinant? So if the conversation is on a phone the father owns, he has a right to know, but if it's on the wife's or kids' personal phones taking place on the same physical spot, he doesn't? This makes no sense. The issue is right to reasonable privacy, not who owns the equipment.

If you believe that anyone who lives in the father's house has no right to privacy and is subject to the father's caprice, then you sanction an oppressive environment, which will only lead to sneaking around, lying, deceit, and another generation of the same.

[Joe Gahona]

I'm disappointed in myself for actually participating in this poll and reading the thread.

[eastside billee]

If you pay the phone bill, you are entitled to know whatever information you need to know. Otherwise, tell others to stop using it.

[Oblong]

You're saying the conduit is the sole determinant? So if the conversation is on a phone the father owns, he has a right to know, but if it's on the wife's or kids' personal phones taking place on the same physical spot, he doesn't? This makes no sense. The issue is right to reasonable privacy, not who owns the equipment.

If you believe that anyone who lives in the father's house has no right to privacy and is subject to the father's caprice, then you sanction an oppressive environment, which will only lead to sneaking around, lying, deceit, and another generation of the same.

If they're discussing illegal activities the authorities won't make a distinction. They'll just confiscate your house.

Until my kids pay for their own phone then I have a right to know.

[JohnJMS]

I voted YES - it's nosy.

Exceptions:


MY WIFE: she can ask me - and I won't be bothered.

KIDS - you have the right to know what your kids (minors) are up to, especially if it's your phone.


Anyone else can mind their own God damn business. (bitter - ain't I? :wink: )

[Buddahfan]

Nope that is not being nosy

What is being nosy is what I had happen to me.

A neighbor who visited maybe once a month came over one day and went straight to my phone.

He started playing back all of my messages.

Now that is nosy

Needless to say that was the last time he got invited over.

[djhutch]

It is common courtesy when someone calls for you & you're not home to ask who is calling. I would ask the same thing. They're the ones with the problem.

[ToledoTigerFan]

My family says I am nosey and have to know everything that is going on. I say I just like to be informed. The major reason they say that is most of the time when there is a phone call, I typically ask who it was and what they wanted. Do I need to change? Your thoughts appreciated.

If you have another phone in the house, pick it up and listen in. Then you won't have to be nosey. You'll already knowsy the details.

[davidsb]

Thanks for all the input, I am going to try really hard to work on improving this.Five days, a couple dozen phone calls, ZERO questions. I am proud of myself so far even if no one has noticed. :cheeky:

[Team Mom]

Yes its being noisy. Maybe you are just making conversation and really don't care but ask it just to be taking. If was your business you would be told.